Hope means different things to different people. For many, it is about being optimistic and positive in the face of reality. It is not unusual for someone with an incurable illness to lose hope (also called helplessness), let their illness take over and even say they want to die. Unrelenting symptoms and loss of independence can all become too much.
Even if there is no hope of a cure, you can still have other hopes and dreams – for the relief of your symptoms, for comfort and peace, for your relationships, for your family and friends. Any or all of these hopes can help you sustain a good quality of life.
Losing hope because you do not think you or those around you can cope any longer is not necessarily the same as the often serene acceptance at the end of life that the battle is no longer worth fighting. It may take a professional – either physical, psychological or both – to pick the difference.
It is important for you, and particularly your family and friends, to recognise that a sense of hopelessness is often not a permanent state of mind, but an emotional symptom they need to recognise and help you deal with.
Reading inspiring biographies and other accounts from people who have battled serious illness and adversity may help if you feel you have lost hope.
Return to CareSearch pages
Life, Hope & Reality was developed and written by Afaf Girgis, Claire Johnson, and Sylvie Lambert with funding from the NHMRC and Cancer Council NSW.
Last updated 30 August 2015