Family Communication

Not every family talks openly with each other. This often may not change, even though you are seriously ill or dying.

Sometimes events have made talking with each other more difficult. Family members often move away to other areas. Divorce and remarriage can create new families. These things mean that people communicate in a different way.

You may have had difficult relationships in the past. You may have new relationships that are fragile. This can mean that problems get worse at such a stressful time. Family members often have different views. There can be long standing differences. These things can cause conflict, and perhaps as they always have done. A family meeting with everyone present is the best way to communicate. This may not always be possible though if people don’t live nearby.

You may want to reconnect with family members, former partners or friends. This can bring its own difficulties but also often great rewards and peace of mind.

In many cases your carer will be a family member. Sometimes your carer will be a neighbour or close friend. Communication between your carer and your family could become difficult. Sometimes there can be conflict.

Communication can be difficult but not impossible. Decide the best ways in which you, your carer and your family members can talk with each other. There will be important information that you need to share with different people. The palliative care team may be able to help you to look at communication with those important to you.


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  • The Dying Matters (UK) website has a video called 'A party for Kath' that you may want to watch.

Last updated 10 April 2017